Forgiveness is a Choice in Eating Disorder and Addiction Recovery

Eating disorder and addiction recovery requires us to forgive in order to move on. Yet some of us have been taught a false definition of forgiveness. Some of us forgive the people who abused them but find it most difficult to forgive themselves. Here’s how forgiveness is designed to set us free. It’s my belief that

4 Ways to Help Yourself and Others Through Grief in Recovery

Recovery is hard but not as hard as having an addiction. We are addicts for the same reason – we find something to numb out uncomfortable emotions. When we no longer have our trusty tool we start to feel again and that can bring up truckloads of guilt and shame, and all the other feelings

The #1 Thing You Want on Your Gravestone

When we first meet someone we smile or shake hands, and exchange names. The next question after that is frequently the same, “What do you do?” Our reply, sets the stage for the creation of ourselves in this person’s head. If we say we’re a lawyer synapses fire. Different synapses fire if we call ourselves

Skinny is the New Stressed

A while back, one of my friends had a baby. She was nursing, working full time, exhausted constantly, and running around like a chicken with her head cut off. It was one day in her office building when a client of hers incredulously gushed at how skinny she was after having the baby and how

You’re Only as Sick as Your Secrets

You’re Only as Sick as Your Secrets. There’s that saying that a chain can only be as strong as its weakest link. The saying reminds me of the game Red Rover that I played at summer fun when I was a kid. You’d stand in a line all holding hands and sing, “Red Rover, Red

The Choice of Recovery from Addiction

I’m drawn towards words like a moth to a flame. Little corner bookstores pull at my insides like my bones are made of magnets. Language is music, the notes like chords in the ether, spiraling through my brain like those 80’s streamers kids would play with, long snaking fabric malleable to the slightest movement. The

Mirror Mirror on the Wall: Using Mirrors in Addiction Recovery

Mirror, Mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all? If you’ve had an eating disorder or addiction you’ve asked yourself a thousand different versions of that question while standing in front of your mirror daily. But mirrors can be used to your advantage in addiction recovery. What I’ve found that’s common with addiction is